Oceans

You may know the song  Oceans by Hillsong United. The bridge goes like this:

Spirit, lead me where my trust is without borders 
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Saviour

I’d always sung this song thoughtfully, meaning it. But some years ago I felt God challenge me as I sang. What about when you’re not walking on the water? What about when you’re in deep, over your head? What about when you feel you’re drowning because you’re so far out of your depth, when you can’t breathe? Will you still follow? Will you still trust?

I had to think carefully about my answer, but ultimately my yes was nothing more than re-committing to the Lord who I had followed and trusted for years. How could there be any other answer?

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That moment was key because I spent much of the following months feeling very much as if I were drowning. Often I felt so far underwater that I couldn’t see the surface anymore and I didn’t know when I could next come up for air. It’s difficult to explain why I was feeling like this, even to myself – but it was hard and I often felt lost. All I could do was hold tightly to Jesus’ hand and keep my eyes on Him. It was a constant battle – one I didn’t always win. When I read back through my journal from that period, there’s a sense of desperation for God and frequent reminders to myself that I trust Him. I saw His faithfulness again and again as He brought me to the surface for air just when I couldn’t keep going any longer. And He never let go of my hand, even when my grip was slipping and my resolve was gone.

Was my faith made stronger? Yes.

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After this had gone on for more than a year, someone prayed for me and had a picture of me standing with water rushing around me, rising but never above my head. She saw me standing firm – not moving or flinching. She said it was a reminder to me that when I find my strength in God, I cannot be shaken. It made me realise that I wasn’t drowning any more. I did still feel the odd wave crashing over my head, but overall the waters were receding and I could touch the bottom, feet firmly planted in God and hopeful that things were changing.

It remained a hard season. I felt my job was simply to stand firm and trust in God, so that’s what I fought to do. There were many things I thought I might hear God say, or wanted to hear Him say. What He did say was not what I expected. (No change there then! I love that God’s character is unchanging and yet He surprises me all the time.) He simply kept repeating the same things over and over again: I love you so much. I’m so proud of you. I’m here with you. It jolted me every time because I felt such a mess, such a failure. He was teaching me about identity again, more deeply.

‘As Isaiah 43 states, our identity is in Him, not the fire, flood, or storm.
We may stink of smoke, be drenched and windswept, but our identity is in Him.’
Paul Manwaring in Kisses from a Good God

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Eventually things changed and I felt washed up on shore after the storm, lost and broken and numb and utterly exhausted. I felt like I couldn’t even see God anymore, let alone hold on to Him. But He was right there, and He invited me to sit quietly on the beach with Him for a while, my head on His shoulder and His arm around me. After some time in His presence, I started to talk about all that happened. I cried and He held me tightly. Then He began to speak, to help me make sense of things.

I felt broken into tiny pieces. To some extent, I still feel broken. I feel that now God is putting the pieces back together into something new and more beautiful than before. It’s a time for healing and newness. A lot of people are asking me what I’m doing with my life now. I guess that’s the answer. I’m giving God space to make the pieces of me into something new and more beautiful. He is so careful with every detail.

There will come a point when it’s time to venture back out onto the ocean. Maybe this time I’ll get to walk on the water! It feels a bit scary to contemplate going back out there because there are no guarantees that I won’t start to sink again. But the Lord has promised to go with me and I know He will never let me go. And ultimately I know that I’d rather be drowning with Him than safe on the beach without Him.

You make me brave
You make me brave
You call me out beyond the shore into the waves
You Make Me Brave – Bethel Music

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Worth it?

Sometimes this is too much. I am missing too much. I am missing babies being born, and growing up. I am missing their milestones. I am missing out on newborn cuddles, toddler games, 3-year-old questions and 6-year-old stories. I am missing seeing their beautiful smiles and hearing them laugh at the smallest things. These ones, these missings, are the hardest because they can’t be replaced or regained, because the little ones don’t understand why I flit in and out of their lives, why for months at a time I appear on a computer screen and won’t come out of it to play with them.

I miss my friends – those friends who know me and still want to be my friend, those friends who welcome me into their homes and families and lives.

I miss my precious family, who are the best.

Bangkok is not too much. I love it here. I love what I get to do here. I have met incredible people. I have seen God move in new ways. I have grown and stretched and changed. I don’t regret coming here. But often I do regret what I have left behind. I’m learning to live in that tension, and usually it’s not a big issue, but sometimes I don’t do it well. Sometimes I get grumpy and complain to God – why did you bring me here? Why did you make me to be this person? Why did you give me all these amazing people only to ask me to move away from them? Or, a long-standing question, Why can’t all my favourite people be in the same place as each other, and also the same place as me? (Of course, I chose to come here. God didn’t force me. And like I said, I don’t regret it. My complaining is both ridiculous and heartfelt.)

Right now, living in the tension is hard. I want to be here and also there, have my cake and eat it I suppose. I wonder if it’s because I’m being challenged to a deeper level of commitment, of surrender, although I’m not quite sure yet what that means.

What I always come back to is that God is worth this, much more than this. I have promised Him many times to follow where He leads. There’s a John Wesley covenant prayer that I picked up at a church as a teenager and kept on my wall for a long time. I have prayed it thoughtfully and with sincerity over many years. After all is said and done, it still expresses my heart and my desire.

I am no longer my own, but yours.
Put me to what you will, rank me with whom you will;
put me to doing, put me to suffering;
let me be employed for you, or laid aside for you,
exalted for you, or brought low for you;
let me be full,
let me be empty,
let me have all things,
let me have nothing:
I freely and wholeheartedly yield all things
to your pleasure and disposal.
And now, glorious and blessed God,
Father, Son and Holy Spirit,
you are mine and I am yours. So be it.
And the covenant now made on earth, let it be established in heaven.   
Amen.

Amen.

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Learning, Growing, Becoming – DTS Reflections

I sat down with my journal to reflect on the biggest areas of learning and growth for me during the Discipleship Training School (DTS), which finished last week. Turns out there are more than I thought! This has been 6 months of incredible stretching and growth, so I share these areas of learning with you in the hope they might encourage you as you see how God is transforming me.

The entire DTS at graduation.

The entire DTS at graduation.

Unsurprisingly (given that I’ve spent all my time since January with the same 30ish people), I have had no choice but to grow in how I relate to others. Some of that has been in laying down my rights, preferring others to myself, learning to criticize and judge others less and lift them up in prayer more and some has been in not taking the blame for everything – acknowledging when someone has sinned against me and offering forgiveness instead of denying my hurt. I think I’ve made a little bit of progress in asking for help and addressing issues with others too.

I’m learning to love people fiercely, even when I know the close relationship is short-term and the investment feels too costly for the reward – to let people in to my heart without worrying about getting hurt or the inevitable goodbyes, trusting that God will pick up the pieces if necessary. I’m commanded to love, not merely be nice.

I’m learning to walk in an attitude of submission to those placed in authority or leadership over me, even when I disagree with them most vehemently. I’m learning to be a better team player, to be less independent. I’m learning to lay down my inclination to lead and to seek to develop people or ministries – sometimes this is just not my place, especially when my involvement in a ministry is very short-term. I have greater insight into what I understand ‘leadership’ to mean and how my definition is not necessarily the same as yours, and that that’s ok.

I am becoming more myself, more who God created me to be, without worrying about looking a bit silly or about what people will think. My playful, light-hearted, maybe even goofy side is emerging and I think I’m getting better at having fun, strange as that sounds. This has been a significant release for me.

I’ve grown in relating to God as Father and in seeking to encounter his presence every single day, not settling for less and always seeking more. I have again and again been challenged to surrender to Jesus, at a deeper level each time. He is worth laying down everything for. I’ve learnt to walk in God’s grace every day – his grace is always sufficient and his power is made perfect in my weakness, and this has been made very evident to me through all the challenges and difficulties there have been. I’ve learnt to press into God in the tough times more than ever. I’m learning how to deal with frustration, disappointment and unmet expectations. I’ve learnt that sometimes God’s purposes are not what I think they are!

I’m beginning to understand the authority I have in Christ. I heard God say that I have a voice. I’m slowly gaining understanding of what this means, but it’s to do with the authority I have when I speak God’s Word, when I pray. I need to use my voice, not letting it be silenced. I’ve grown in my understanding and practice of intercession. Prayer has been a big area of development for me.

Spiritual attack has been sometimes obvious and sometimes subtle. Fighting often involves standing on the truth, letting God remind me of the truth, what really happened, not being dictated to by my emotions. It involves pressing in to God regardless, in worship and obedience. (Of course, there are many ways of waging spiritual warfare – these are some I’ve been developing).

I’ve learnt that Thailand is my home too. God told me clearly (This is your country now) and when I was in Kolkata, I learntthe emotional truth of it as I became homesick for Thailand! During this DTS, God has given me vision and dreams for the future and has opened the door for me to start to walk out those dreams in Thailand. I’m thrilled both to know the next step and be ready for it.

So there you have it – a summary of what has been going on in my heart and head and spirit over the past 6 months. I know it’s quite long, but it really is only a summary. I can’t express how wonderful, faithful, kind, gracious, loving and good God is. I’m so grateful to him and excited to see how he will continue to bring transformation in these areas as well as teaching me new things. To him be all the glory!

To finish, here’s a link to six-minute video summary of our six-month adventure. Enjoy!  CARM DTS 2013

This is your country now.

I got back yesterday from Camp Zoe, a Christian camp for some of the teens we work with here in Thailand. It was a great 5 days of building relationships, having fun, playing crazy games and helping the kids get to know Jesus a little better.

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My team at Crazy Night. Our costume theme was… crazy?

The last night was a worship night and we spent some time thinking about being a light to Thailand. There was an outline of Thailand marked on the floor, with a large wooden cross in the centre. On the cross was a candle. The idea was that we would light our own candles from the one in the middle and set them round the country outline as a symbol that we want to be God’s light in the darkness in this country. My friend Brandi, who facilitated this, asked everyone to consider what purpose God has us here for. I started thinking about this for myself, not just for the young people.

Very quickly, and very clearly, God said that if I lit a candle, it would be a symbol of committing to stay in Thailand – not just shining God’s light in Thailand during this DTS outreach, but staying here long beyond that. I knew I was staying in Asia, but I hadn’t quite been sure what specific country. I hadn’t been fully committed to Thailand longer-term. So I took some time to think about if I wanted to make that commitment by adding my candle to those others were lighting.

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Shining God’s light all around Thailand.

I did light the candle and add it to the map. In some ways, it wasn’t easy – I needed to again surrender some of my own ideas and hopes and dreams. But as I made this symbolic gesture and sat looking at the map, I felt the Spirit whisper, ‘This is your country now.’ Not that Northern Ireland will ever stop being my country, but now Thailand is my country too. This makes me really happy.

So Thailand is where I’m staying, where God is calling me to shine his light into the darkness. For how long? I don’t know. I’m not completely sure in what capacity I’m staying either, but I think I’m getting closer to knowing that too – watch this space!